Step Back Don’t Shout
I wish someone had given me this advice when my kids where little, they would make me angry and when they pushed it too far I would shout, I never raised my hands to my kids but I did raise my voice. It is not something I can take back, I know they understand that they had pushed an issue too far, but it doesn’t have to be like that. I have helped to pass on to my children, shouting when angry. It doesn’t teach them how to feel or to deal with a situation when they are angry or frustrated. I wish I had taken a step back and took time to become calm and dealt with the situation when I was calm.
Change Your Behaviour And Take A Step Back
It is possible to change, you can make positive changes to become the person you want, the one that has the positive role model for your family, the one that you are proud to be.
It is possible to step back. When you have young children, the stress of working and paying bills is difficult to slow down and to enjoy the moments. When our children get frustrated and angry they need to know how they need to deal with that anger and if as parents we are teaching our children that when you are angry it is all right to shout and scream. Then this is not teaching them methods, which will allow them to deal with their anger in an appropriate manner.
It is important that our children learn to know what is right and wrong, but is there a better way that we as parents can teach methods, which don’t condone screaming or shouting at them, talking to them, going somewhere to calm down, first before confronting the problem.
I am changing and looking at life differently; I look back and wish that I had taken that step back. That I had learnt a better way in which I could deal with the anger that would overtake me.
However, that change is possible. It is possible to cherish our children and help them grow into adults who know how to deal with different situations where they feel anger and hurt. However, it has to come from within, make the New Year the year that you learn ways in which you are able to control yourself better.
We can’t expect the youth of today to be calm with the perfect manners, if as adults we have let our own standards slip. As I have aged I have allowed things in my own life to slip and I’m determined that I am addressing these issues now, I am not putting them off till the New Year, I’m determined to make the positive changes in my life that allows me to feel the respect in myself first. I am looking at making my time important again, I might even include meditation too as a way to relax and calm down.
Reasons To Change And Take A Step Back
The reasons that you have to make you want to change are personal; for me I am looking at the positive side, making those changes will make me feel good about myself again. It will reduce the stress that I feel and this is not good when I have depression and anxiety, it can make these worse.
I have to take a stand in what I believe in and to make those positive changes; I ask you to join with me in taking the time to step back before rushing into even a simple argument and make those positive changes in our lives together.
I am working on reducing my stress levels and not turn to anger and frustration at the slightest thing, but to move forward feeling positive and thankful each day.