Comparing Yourself To Others Can Cause You Harm
Do you ever get the feeling that you are not good enough, that everyone else is better than you? It could be harming more than yourself esteem, it can play havoc with your time management skills, making you feel even worse.
It is about learning to put yourself first, accepting who you are and how you work with the situation you are dealing with. It doesn’t mean that you have to accept that you might never change and never achieve your dreams because that isn’t what this is about.
It is more about putting your own situation first, you mightn’t be the first mum at the school gate every day, it doesn’t mean that you don’t love and care for your child. What it does mean is you have to deal with your family life your way.
Comparing Spending
I know when I go to the supermarket, with my set amount to spend and my shopping list, instead of getting my task done; I spend time thinking about other people. The thoughts that go through my head revolve around money, how can they afford all of that food, how many people live with them to consume the food? I just seem to spend ages in the shop wondering about others instead of concentrating on my task in hand.
I am not concerned about if they have money but I wonder if they have debt. I am a bit obsessed with debt and budgeting because I know from my time in the bank that people just don’t know how to budget their money effectively. It is as though this lesson has been lost on a complete generation.
Nevertheless, it means I am not paying enough interest at my time and I am letting the thought of comparing myself to others not only get in the way of my time management skills, but it can also have an effect on myself confidence too.
What if they are better at budgeting than me, just thinking about this thought sends shivers down my spine.
Negative Thinking
The comparing of ourselves to others builds a wall of negative thinking and this is difficult to break down once it has started to take hold. Negative thinking can destroy how we think and feel about ourselves; it can have a negative impact on those around us too, pushing them away.
It can make you feel worthless and not worthy of spending time with your family or friends. It can affect your whole life in a negative way.
Time To Change
If you are looking to change, it is important to go slowly, if you rush at all of those negative thoughts at once chances are they are going to come back. It is better to tackle them one at a time and I am here with you on this one.
Each person’s journey is different and it doesn’t matter. What matters is the steps you take. As you take a step forward, thinking of all the positive things that can make you smile, can push you forward to that goal.
Instead of thinking of the negative, change it to a positive. The example that jumped at me this morning was one of my dogs drank some water too quickly, coughed and brought up some dog food; my positive thought; at least some of the floor got a quick clean this morning.
If you are comparing your life to that of someone else’s you are not going to have the time with which you need to live your own life. It is important that you make the most of every day because life is precious and it is surprising how quickly the years can pass.
Therefore, whilst you live in a world of comparison, who has the better phone or more money, start focusing on the things that you can do to change your life so you feel happier. Focusing on you and your needs can help you move forward away from the negative thinking that can impact more than just your time but that of your family too.
